Hi Y’all! I wanted to discuss an important topic today, baby takeover. If you’re a mom or dad you can relate to this all too well. When you’re pregnant with your first it’s just you and your SO. All the alone time, date nights, and snuggles with the dog are uninterrupted by baby.
Then you have said baby and your life quickly flips and becomes all about baby. I have a harder time leaving baby E than Paul does. He admits it, I don’t know if it’s a mom thing or if I’m crazy. (Surely I’m not alone) I feel like every second off of work I should be spending with my baby. When I went back to work I felt like I was missing out on my baby girls’ life. Luckily, I have a wonderful mom (emmie’s Gigi) who watches her so I get snapchats and baby talk frequently, but it doesn’t help the guilt I first felt. How do you explain to a baby that you have to leave but you’ll be back or the fact that you only get 5 hours with them before bedtime. I have the hardest time with this. When I’m home with E I want to be as present as possible, phones away, not watching TV, just playing with my little girl. On the weekends I want to do the same thing. I always said before having Emersyn my man and I would continue date nights and alone time. Which I know is so very important so that you can continue a great relationship with each other. However, after our little girl arrived I found that so much harder to do. Anytime we are out I’m constantly wondering what she’s doing, or what I could be doing with her. I think my fear is I already miss out on so much since I’m at work, that I don’t want to miss anymore of her little life. I have already seen first-hand how fast they grow. First I’m holding this tiny baby and next thing I know, I have a six month old. I love my fiancé dearly and I love time with him but I have struggled with allowing myself to be okay away from Emersyn. I don’t have anxiety that she isn’t being taken care of; I have sadness that I don’t get to be the one taking care of her. We have a date night planned to go to a concert and hotel. (First night away from baby) and I’m looking forward to it, but I already know I’m going to miss her. I think that’s where us mom’s need to find a balance. Allowing ourselves to take a breather and recharge our battery. If you get excited for the babysitter to come over or can’t wait to get out, I’m not calling you a bad mom by any means. In fact leave a comment on how you learned to just relax away from baby!