Judging Mom

Last night I was scrolling through Instagram when I came across a picture of a mom laying with her son in bed. It was a beautiful capture. I scrolled and read the caption that she was actually breastfeeding; I thought that makes the picture even sweeter. Then I scrolled and saw the comments. Some of them were just awful, commenting on how she was thin so she must leave her child with a nanny while she worked out, etc. It broke my heart for the mother in the picture. Not once did that ever cross my mind, I never thought about her weight and what she looked like, I noticed the simplicity and beauty of the photo and the representation it had on motherhood.

In the nine months I was pregnant I gained 29 lbs. I was in the “normal” range and I was happy about that. I had Emersyn and three days later came home to try on my pre-pregnancy pants to see if they would fit, to my surprise I couldn’t get them past my hips. I was devastated as I put my maternity pants back on. But why? My body just gave birth and I had this unrealistic expectation that my body would suddenly lose 29 lbs that took 9 months to gain, in the matter of three days. It took time and honestly I ignored it and focused on my daughter. Flash forward 6 months and I’m now 2 lbs less than my pre-pregnancy weight and I’m proud. With that said there are women who don’t lose the weight right away or ever for that matter and that’s fine. I will never judge a mom based on the weight she gained/lost. I will never judge a mom period. That is not my place. We don’t know what that individual has gone through or is going through. We all have struggles and dealing with negative comments from other mom’s should never be one of them. I’m sure there are still plenty of momma’s who have a few extra pregnancy pounds left or momma’s who can’t keep weight on, but you know what, that doesn’t make her any less of a mom. Being a mom is hard work and the last thing any of us mom’s need to do is feel bad about ourselves. We created life and in some cases adopted life. We are raising tiny people to be decent human beings and how are we supposed to do that when grown moms are making those hateful comments. We need to stick together, there is enough hate in the world that we are trying to protect our kids from. We are a group of powerful women, we are raising the future. I hope that my little girl will grow up to show love to others and acceptance, never hate. I never want to be the reason my daughter learned to have hatred towards others. So please ladies be respectful, understanding and judgment free. We’re all beautiful and in our kids eyes, we are the greatest people, live up to that.

 

4 Replies to “Judging Mom”

  1. I think the same thing when I see other moms being ‘bullied’ on social media. All they want to do is share their life and their little ones with the world. People can be so harsh sometimes. Besides the fact that even if she was leaving her infant with someone else to work out, that’s nobody’s business.

  2. Nice article. I think people often forget that they’re the same person online as they are offline – if you wouldn’t say something to someone in person than you shouldn’t say it online. People are still people and have feelings and hiding behind a computer screen doesn’t change that!

  3. I hate all that. I have almost decided not to read comments on anything. I feel like everyone just needs to be mean. I don’t even like getting screenshots from friends so they can talk trash about people.

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