You Know You’re A Mom…

Hi Y’all! I hope you’re having a great week so far. I came up with a list that I feel is true for almost every momma out there.

 

You’re probably a mom if:

  1. Your coffee is always cold
  2. You have to heat said coffee up several times
  3. You may or may not have spit up/ milk/baby food on you at some point during the day
  4. Your kid dresses cuter than you do
  5. You spend more money on your kids clothes than on yours
  6. Scratch that you spend more money on your kid(s) than on yourself
  7. You get your hair pulled daily
  8. You have perfected the mom hair don’t care look
  9. You have more baby/kid talk during the day than adult conversations
  10. You have changed more diapers than you thought possible
  11. You have been pooped/peed on (surely this isn’t just me)
  12. Leaving the house involves 30 trips back inside because you forgot something
  13. You use snapchat filters to entertain your kid (okay, it entertains me more)
  14. You are constantly saying, “no, don’t eat that”
  15. The only time you have to sit down and read a book, the book usually involves pictures
  16. Your dinner is usually cold
  17. Your kid/baby shares their half-eaten food with you, and you eat it to show them sharing is caring
  18. You’re constantly hoping that you’re doing a good job, and your kid turns out to be a decent/caring human being
  19. You think your baby/kid does the funniest things
  20. You stare at your baby/kid and wonder how you got so lucky

Genuine Love

Hi Y’all! I had a realization this weekend, my fiancé and I have been on a total of maybe 10 dates by ourselves since Emersyn was born. I say 10 but it’s honestly probably more like 6. This past weekend we had our first night away from baby E, and I don’t just mean a date night, we actually stayed in a hotel away from her. (I missed her like crazy) Paul had bought me Luke Bryan tickets for my birthday and we had a hotel stay gifted to us for Christmas. Paul planned it all out and the weekend finally came. It broke my heart to leave Emersyn behind. I go to work for nine hours and that is the longest I’ve been away from her, but I knew that Paul and I needed this. I realized this weekend that I have been abandoning my fiancé. I have pushed him aside and consumed all of my time with our baby. Now when I say I abandoned him I don’t mean I have completely ignored him, I mean I have stopped making “us” time a priority. I have stopped trying/wanting to go on dates because that means I have to leave Emersyn even more than I already do with work. I have struggled finding the perfect balance between being a good mom and a good partner.

This Saturday we checked into the hotel and went to dinner at this German place in downtown. We sat and talked, we had a conversation without being interrupted by a sweet little girl babbling away (although we did miss her being at the table.) We sat and talked to each other, actually listening to what the other one had to say. While we were at the concert singing and dancing, I just kept looking over at him, in awe that he’s mine. This man, who still to this day gives me butterflies, is standing next to me confused why I keep staring at him. I stood there dumbfounded that I haven’t tried to spend more alone time with him since E was born. I realized I needed to stop feeling selfish for spending a couple hours away from our precious girl and take time for our love. I mean that, when you have a baby your whole world changes, including the love you have for your partner. Your love is what created that little soul and it’s just as important to nurture that love as it is to nurture your child. I never want him to feel like he’s been pushed aside. This weekend we made a promise to each other to go out and spend time with each other at least once a month. I am genuinely excited to be able to go through life with him by my side. I’m also elated that Emersyn and our future little(s) get to grow up in a home where they will see what genuine love looks like, that is so important to me. So to my fiancé, you make my heart skip a beat and my mind race, I love you bunches and I’m so happy you’re my baby daddy.

MOMents like these

I had the sweetest moment with my baby girl this morning. I was getting ready for work and ususally Emersyn will get up in time for me to give her love before I head out, but today she slept in. (11 hours! Woohoo) I got ready hoping she would wake up so that I could get my morning snuggles, I checked the monitor and she was still sound asleep holding her lovey. I decided to go and pick her up to give her snuggles, maybe slightly hoping to wake her up in the process. (I know, why wake a sleeping baby.)  I carefully slid my hands under her and wrapped her in a blanket, I sat in her glider and just snuggled her. She was still sound asleep. I absolutely love moments like this. I just sat in her dark room with her heartbeat sound machine in the background and rocked her.  Taking in every little feature on her sweet face, tracing her nose and cheeks with my finger. I can’t help but feel this overwhelming love that I have for her. It’s moments like these that I am so grateful to have been blessed with this sweet and joyous little baby. Listening to her breathe and smile in her sleep is worth more than getting to work early. Holding her for even just 10 minutes before I head out gives me all the energy I need for the day. It’s moments like these that I forget about all the times I question if I’m doing this whole parenting thing right. I would trade all of my “free” time for moments like these. I know as mom’s we are in a constant mode of needing to get things done, but I know I can speak for almost every mom when I say that those “things” can wait when it comes to spending even just a few extra minutes with your little loves. Sometimes I wonder why I was chosen to be her mom. This little girl is so unique and shows so much love already. She is such a happy and sweet baby girl and I question how we got so lucky to have her. What did I do right in my life for God to give me her? Emersyn was a surprise baby, her daddy and I had just graduated college and we moved into our first place together.  Sometimes I wonder what life would be like if the stars hadn’t aligned perfectly. I never think about anything good though, I always think about how lonely and sad life would be without her. She is the greatest blessing that has ever happened to us and we pray every day thanking Him for this precious soul we were trusted with. So momma’s hold on tight to your sweet babies and maybe if enough of us ask for it, time will slow down even just for a few minutes.

Baby Travel Tips

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Hi Y’all. I wanted to write about how we survived a 3 ½ hour plane ride with a 5 ½ month old. (Honestly, it wasn’t that bad!) I found some super helpful tricks and I wanted to share them with you other mom’s and dad’s out there.

Tips and Tricks:

Pacifier holders- Buy some pacifier holders and clip the toys to your baby! This prevents the baby from throwing toys and you attempting to find them on the “clean” floor.

Pacifier clips

Overnight diaper- We packed a couple of night time diapers with us and changed E right before we got on the plane so that the diaper could absorb a lot more and we could try and avoid a possible blowout. (We successfully avoided)

Nursing/bottles- When the plane takes off and you start to descend make sure to either nurse or bottle feed your little one. This will help pop their ears so that they aren’t in pain. Even sucking a binky may help since their jaw is moving.

Toys- If your child/baby is older buy them a new toy so that they can have something they’ve never played with before. I bought emmie, Sassy Wonder Wheel Activity Center, we stuck it to the window and she had a blast!

Sassy Wonder Wheel

Blanket- I brought a receiving blanket for E and it came in handy. The plane is chilly and this helped her snuggle up.

Car seat carrying case- We bought the J.L. Childress Backpack Padded Car Seat Travel Bag. This specific one was a backpack style and helped us carry it through the airport. Also, I recommend checking it at the gate, this allows for less of an opportunity of getting damaged.

J.L. Childress Link

Clorox wipes- Trust me the plane is not clean and your baby will be touching everything. We made sure to wipe everything down so that if she touched it we wouldn’t have to worry about constantly cleaning her hands.

Ergo Baby- Baby wear! This freed up our hands so much and was a lot easier than lugging E around on our hip. This will also free up the stroller (if you’re bringing one) and you can put bags in it.

Ergobaby

**Breastmilk- you can bring breastmilk through security, they just have to check it if it’s above a certain number of ounces. The flight attendants also took the bottle and heated it up in hot water for us. They were very accommodating you just have to ask.

Relax! Don’t forget to relax; your baby will do just fine. If he/she starts to cry it’s okay. Things do happen and people will understand. Chances are you won’t be the only one with a baby on the plane. The babies can sing the song of their people together!

Baby Takeover

Hi Y’all! I wanted to discuss an important topic today, baby takeover. If you’re a mom or dad you can relate to this all too well. When you’re pregnant with your first it’s just you and your SO. All the alone time, date nights, and snuggles with the dog are uninterrupted by baby.

Then you have said baby and your life quickly flips and becomes all about baby. I have a harder time leaving baby E than Paul does. He admits it, I don’t know if it’s a mom thing or if I’m crazy. (Surely I’m not alone) I feel like every second off of work I should be spending with my baby. When I went back to work I felt like I was missing out on my baby girls’ life. Luckily, I have a wonderful mom (emmie’s Gigi) who watches her so I get snapchats and baby talk frequently, but it doesn’t help the guilt I first felt. How do you explain to a baby that you have to leave but you’ll be back or the fact that you only get 5 hours with them before bedtime. I have the hardest time with this. When I’m home with E I want to be as present as possible, phones away, not watching TV, just playing with my little girl. On the weekends I want to do the same thing. I always said before having Emersyn my man and I would continue date nights and alone time. Which I know is so very important so that you can continue a great relationship with each other. However, after our little girl arrived I found that so much harder to do. Anytime we are out I’m constantly wondering what she’s doing, or what I could be doing with her. I think my fear is I already miss out on so much since I’m at work, that I don’t want to miss anymore of her little life. I have already seen first-hand how fast they grow. First I’m holding this tiny baby and next thing I know, I have a six month old. I love my fiancé dearly and I love time with him but I have struggled with allowing myself to be okay away from Emersyn. I don’t have anxiety that she isn’t being taken care of; I have sadness that I don’t get to be the one taking care of her. We have a date night planned to go to a concert and hotel. (First night away from baby) and I’m looking forward to it, but I already know I’m going to miss her. I think that’s where us mom’s need to find a balance. Allowing ourselves to take a breather and recharge our battery. If you get excited for the babysitter to come over or can’t wait to get out, I’m not calling you a bad mom by any means. In fact leave a comment on how you learned to just relax away from baby!

Utterly Momma

Let’s talk Boobs!

 

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To breastfeed or to formula feed. I’m not going to lecture you on which is better, I personally feel as long as you’re feeding your baby and he/she is happy and loved that’s all that  matters. Early on in my pregnancy I knew I wanted to breastfeed, and I didn’t have the slightest clue what was next. I started reading (my favorite thing to do) and became overwhelmed. “Try this position if your baby doesn’t latch.” “Cracked nipples” “breastfeeding in private,” I don’t feel like I need to go on. The countless articles out there gave me information but I still had no idea what I was doing. I bought the supplies, Medela Pump, Nursing Pads, Nipple Cream, Pumping Bottles, Breast Shield Wipes, Nursing Bras, and the list goes on. Nothing prepared me for what breastfeeding would take until I actually had Baby E. Thankfully now and days each hospital has a lactation consultant that comes in everyday while you’re in the hospital, utilize them! I was extremely lucky that Em had no trouble latching and was a nursing pro (at least that’s what they told me, I still was in shock that I just gave birth to a child.) The hospital made sure I put her on a strict schedule, every 2-4 hours she had to eat. I took that very seriously, so at 2AM when she didn’t want to eat and she wanted to sleep. I began sobbing, frustrated that I couldn’t get her to latch, and terrified that it had been 4 1/2 hours since she ate last. I called for help, I was then reassured by the nurse that she was okay, and she took her to the nursery and brought her back 2 hours later when she was ready to eat. The biggest lesson I learned from that is, if I freak out she can sense it, if she’s hungry she will eat, and breastfeeding is hard but so rewarding. Your body not only created this human being but now your body is providing food so that this little being can survive.  Nights are hard and I found myself frustrated that I was the only one who could feed her in the middle of the night, envious that Paul could sleep. But then I looked down and saw this tiny little face, in awe that I was finally holding our baby, the moment that I prayed for, for so long. I came up with some breastfeeding tips that I have learned along the way. If I don’t have something listed that works for you, please leave a comment so that other mommas can see.!

 

Breastfeeding tips:

Find a position that baby likes- The hospital will teach you all the different ways that you can feed your baby. Don’t be afraid to try them, what works for one baby may not work for another.

Ask for help- If you feel like you aren’t producing enough milk or baby isn’t latching, contact the lactation consultant. My daughter’s pediatrician gave me a script for me to make an appointment with one. They are there to help, no question is embarrassing.

Stay hydrated and eat enough- If you don’t stay hydrated or eat enough calories your body can’t make the milk your baby needs. I believe the rule of thumb is 8oz of water after each feeding on top of your normal water intake.

Fenugreek- I contacted my OBGYN on things that I could take to increase my milk supply so that I could start a freezer stash and found that the fenugreek capsule seemed to help. (plant-based)

Pump- This may not be for everyone, but this gave baby E’s daddy a chance to feed her. She was two weeks when he finally got to feed her and it helped him feel a part of the process.

Wake Baby Up- Nursing is naturally calming and soothing to your baby, make sure they don’t immediately fall asleep before they finish nursing, otherwise they will be back up again in an hour or so and the cycle will continue.

I have linked the breast pump and nursing supplies that I use below:

Medela Breast Pump

Lansinoh Disposable Nursing Pads

Nursing Bra

Medela Bottles

Medela Quick Clean

A picture of my little love to end the post!

 

 

About This Momma

Hi Y’all! My name is Ashley and I’m a new mom to my little girl, Emersyn. When I first found out I was pregnant I felt overwhelmed. This was uncharted territory and I had no idea what I was in for. The first thing I did was go to Google (naturally.) I researched, read, pinned and took so many screenshots. I think I have done more research now than I did in College! It wasn’t until I was talking with a girlfriend at work about her upcoming bundle of joy that I realized I should put all of my research and life experience of mommin’ down in writing, in hopes to help the other momma’s out there.

A little about myself: I’m 24 years young, and am engaged to the man I’m absolutely head over heels for. I went to University of North Texas and graduated with a degree in Communications and a minor in Public Relations and Advertising. I work for an E commerce company as a Program Manager. I have a little girl named Emersyn Olivia and she has absolutely changed my life. I give her way too many kisses and can’t get enough of her snuggles. I’m an open book and can’t wait to share my life/experiences.

Newborn/Baby Must Haves:

 

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Hi Y’all! I hope everyone has had a great day so far and if you clicked into my blog, welcome! I’m happy you’re here. The first official blog post, I wanted to do a must have list for baby. These are just a few items I have personally used and come to love. If you have any items you love that aren’t on the list please leave a comment for all of the other momma’s to see.

  • The Owlet Monitor- This isn’t a necessity but it definitely gives me a piece of mind at night. The Owlet Monitor straps to your baby’s foot and monitor’s his/her heart rate and oxygen level. The alarm will go off if the heart rate goes too low or too high or if the oxygen gets too low. We have had the alarm go off when E was sick and her oxygen went to low. The alarm jerked her awake and her oxygen went right back up.
  • Owlet Monitor
  • Swaddle Blankets- I personally love the swaddle blankets that come with the Velcro so that I don’t have to attempt to tuck any loose ends. ( I attempted and baby E unwrapped herself within minutes.)
  • Swaddle Blankets
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  • Mamaroo- My parents bought this item for us and Emersyn LOVED it. There are different movement options along with sounds. Honestly, any swing would work it doesn’t have to be the mamaroo. I’ve seen several mom’s use the rock and play swing and their baby loves it. The constant motion is what’s key.
  • Mamaroo
  • White Noise Machine- I registered for this and didn’t realize how truly AMAZING noise could be. I have played this for Emersyn since she was three weeks old and she loves it. I turn hers to the heartbeat sound but there are tons of options. Plus the owl one we currently have can also be used for a nightlight when the child is older.
  • Owl White Noise Machine
  • NoseFrida- Before I was a mom the thought of sucking my child’s boogers out with this thing absolutely made me cringe. However, when your kid is sick with a stuffy nose this baby works wonders!! (Plus there are filters to prevent their boogers from coming close to your mouth.) You do have to be careful that you don’t suck too hard; this can cause their membranes to become more swollen.
  • NoseFrida
  • OogieBear- While we are on the subject of boogers, the OggieBear can help get those dry boogers out of their nose and the ear wax out of their ear. This is a little stick with a loop on each end. The bear’s ears prevent you from digging too far in causing pain.
  • OogieBear
  • The Windi- This is made by the same company that made the Nose Frida. The windi is only meant to use when your child has severe gas pains or constipation. We used this on E and it helped relieve her belly and calm her crying from the pain.
  • The Windi